No one enters a marriage expecting it to become dangerous. But when safety and wellbeing are at risk, the path forward must prioritize protection and support.
Leaving an abusive relationship can feel overwhelming, especially when legal systems and emotional hurdles intertwine. It’s a deeply personal decision, and one that requires careful planning and guidance.
Understanding your legal options
Leaving an abusive relationship is never easy, but with careful planning and the right legal tools, it can be done more safely and effectively. Your safety must come first, and that begins with a safety plan. This might include:
- Identifying safe places to go
- Setting up a secure phone or email account
- Confiding in trusted friends or family
- And gathering essential items like identification, bank information and medications
In some situations, it may be necessary to prepare quietly over time; in others, quick and decisive action is the safest choice.
Once your safety planning is underway, the next step is securing legal protection. This often starts with obtaining a protective order or restraining order through the court. These court orders are available in cases of abuse, harassment and stalking or sexual violence, and can be requested even if no criminal charges have been filed. They may require the abuser to stay away, stop all contact or grant temporary custody, offering immediate legal protection as you prepare to leave the relationship.
The process of divorcing an abusive partner can come with unique challenges. Judges may consider the history of abuse when making decisions about child custody, visitation and even spousal support. It’s important to document incidents of abuse whenever possible, through police reports and medical records, photos or even witness statements, to help support your case in court.
Support is available, and you don’t have to navigate this alone. If you’re thinking about leaving an abusive marriage, consider speaking with a legal professional who can help you understand your rights and protect your safety.
